The Power Of Forgiveness

In many Polynesian cultures, it is believed that a person’s errors (called hara or hala) caused illness.  In our modern way of looking at it, we refer to it as the “mind-body” connection, or that one’s physical illness and “dis-ease” is related to unmanaged emotions and mental state of being.  In Buddhism and Hinduism, this causal relationship is known as “karmic consequences”.

Hoʻoponopono” is a Hawaiian mantra to explain the same concepts.  It is defined as “mental cleansing”: family conferences are held in which relationships are set right through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness.” (Hawaii Dictionary).  Usually priests, or a kahuna (“healer” in Hawaiian),  practice hana (healing on individuals) through involving the sick person’s family and ho’oponopono as part of the process. All the interpersonal relationships of someone’s life are believed to play a part in illness as well as health, and so are brought to bear as components for the healing.

Ho’oponopono Mantra:

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I loveyou

Thank you

The basic tenent with Ho’oponopono is the assumption that each person bears the responsibility for making things right with anyone with whom they have an issue.  The healing takes place through the four phases of confession, repentance, forgiveness and release – or letting go.

The beauty and power of this mantra is in its simplicity and directness.  It’s easy to remember, can be applied to any human relationship that has gotten off track for any reason, and confers instantaneous results.  The potency of each individual phrase is well known.  All of us have experienced the tangible shifts in our attitudes when we’ve uttered those phrases with heartfelt purpose.  Together, and in sequence, they are a force to be reckoned with.

You can practice the mantra anytime and for any reason.  Simply chant the phrases to yourself as often as you would like, and until you begin to feel a change in the energy regarding the person or situation around which you are saying the mantra.

Here is a beuatiful aromatherapy blend I’ve created to compliment your work with Ho’oponopono.

Forgiveness Blend (Aromatherapy Spray)

5 drops of Melissa

3 drops of Frankincense

3 drops of Geranium

2 drops of Bergamot


Blend all the essential oils in a 4 oz. spray bottle filled with distilled or purified water.  Spray around your heart chakra, as well as your aura, and pulse points.  As you spray, inhale the scent with your eyes closed.
If working with Ho’oponopono, spray before and after the chant.

  • Melissa, or Lemon Balm has traditionally been used as a remedy for melancholia and as a strengthener of the brain and nerves.
  • Frankincense is known as an expectorant (metaphorically forgiveness is about releasing what is caught up or congested).  It has an
    elevating, warming and soothing effect on the mind and emotions.
  • Geranium is cleansing, refreshing and is both sedative and uplifting, like bergamot, so it is useful for anxiety.
  • Bergamot is, of all the citruses, most associated with joy.  It counteracts sadness and pessimism.

Blessings to you and your efforts.